On reflection, this item is the
activity that has changed me and my life the most. Before the 40/40list, I had this blog, but I wasn't sure what to say with it. I knew
I wanted to chronicle my writing pursuits and the rejections I
received as I was building a writing life. I planned to write about
life and my observations in between rejections, but that seemed too
broad and unfocused. In the sixteen months before last January, I
published a total of 20 posts. In the past 12 months, I have
published more than 180.
Blogging about my 40/40 list gave me a
consistent topic on which to write. And the more I wrote about my
year-long celebration and other life observations, my readership
grew. For that I am deeply grateful. I honed my craft, chiseled my
voice, and learned that people were interested in what I had to say.
I have written hard truths in the past year. I feel braver and
stronger and more sure of my self and my stance on things.
I am certain that I will be writing
about the ways the 40/40 list has transformed me for many posts to
come, but the following is my initial analysis.
As the list has come close to
completion, people have asked me what activities have stood out over
the course of the year. These are the ones that come readily to
mind: (and like the list itself, in no particular order)
Physical activities: I
did not expect to enjoy all of the physical activities I put on the
list as much as I did. Curiosity put them on the list, but I never
dreamed that I would actually like training for the 5K. I have
signed up for a second session of ice skating lessons, and I am
certain I'll take more tennis lessons as time and budget allow.
These activities tested my perceptions about my athleticism and what
I assumed was my lack thereof. They also reminded me of what impact
my ten years of dance training had had on me after all.
Test driving the MINI Cooper: This
was a fun day spent with a good friend. I never dreamed that I'd
like driving a MINI Cooper as much as I did or that owning one could
be possible.
Rereading the Anne of Green Gables
series: Revisiting this book
series felt like going home. I was reminded of just how important
Anne was to me as I was growing up, making sense of the world, and my
place in it at a vulnerable time for every girl. I related to her so
much better than I did my peers at the time, and Anne gave me the
courage and confidence to like being myself—no matter how different
I felt from others my age. I also discovered the last two books in
the series that I somehow was never curious about reading as a youth.
I'm grateful that I explored these books in my fortieth year. I am
certain that I appreciated them as an adult far more than I would
have as a young girl. Rainbow
Valley
and Rilla of
Ingleside
felt like unexpected birthday gifts.
Ice Skating at Steinbergs:
This was another gift. I did not expect Cadence to enjoy this so
much. I will never forget the radiance on her face as we went around
and around the rink. My daughter looking up at me and saying over
and over, “This is the best day! I'm having so much fun, Mommy!
Let's do this again, okay?”
Cooking activities: There
were only three cooking related items on the list, but they made an
impression on me. I got to share each one of them with special
people and with each one my confidence in the kitchen grew. And then
because of my successes, I was more willing to try new things and
kind to myself when they didn't work out, and then my confidence grew
more. I am a different woman in the kitchen at 41 than at 40. My
next forty years have a lot of yummy goodness in store. I'm just
sure of it.
Daily yoga:
Four sun salutations every day taught me about patience, setting goals,
and the power of incremental success. These lessons will be applied
in other areas of life moving forward. Not to mention how great it
feels to touch my toes every single day.
40 book list: I
could not have predicted the trajectory my life would take by
creating this simple list within a list. I chose the most meaningful
forty books of my life thus far, then sent the link to one of the
authors whose book made the list. In this year of taking
opportunities and risks as they came my way, this message to the
author opened the door to attending her retreat in Montana, which in
turn opened the door to knowing myself and my craft better, having a
new vision for my novel, and making special friendships—one in
particular. I have stayed in constant contact with my friend Pamela,
and she is coming to visit us in February. We're going to
continue the conversation we started in Montana about writing and
life and I am richer for her presence in my life. Saying yes to the
unexpected things that come our way is a really fantastic way to
spend this life.
When
I started the list one year ago today, my blog's page views were just
over 1,800. As of this week, I hit 16,000 page views. I asked the
resident mathematician in my life to figure out what the percentage
increase was. Jana did, and we both looked at each other, mouths
agape. In one short 12-month period my blog's activity has increased
by 780%! I'm calling that a success.
The greatest
legacy of this list is knowing that I won't need to create another
list to get stuff done in my life. The 40/40 list taught me that
life is too good and too rich to sit by and be a spectator. I will
continue to sampling new experiences—not because it's on a check
list—simply because I want to.
Final item on this
list: CHECK.
Congratulations Julie!! I am assuming you are embracing a wonderful feeling of accomplishment, for not only completing your list, but for learning from this exercise in so many ways. I never knew the story behind how you connected with Laura and going on her retreat -- so cool! And how awesome that Pamela is coming to visit too! I hold all of you in my heart and wish that we can somehow ALL get together again...those few days in Montana were special and unforgettable. My one regret was not being able to have as many meaningful, individual conversations with each of you as I wanted to have. I'm happy that you and Pamela will be able to continue where you left off. :)
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